Monday, July 30, 2012

Be the change




Today's guest blog is by Tara Eastman, the Youth & Family Director at First Lutheran Church in Jamestown, NY.

First things first, we (local youth and adults who attended the 2012 ELCA Youth Gathering) would like to thank our home churches and community for the financial and prayer support that helped get us to and carried us throughout our trip to New Orleans from July 18-23.

For five fast-paced days we were at the Evangelical Lutheran Church of America's Youth Gathering in New Orleans, LA. During our time there, we practiced peacemaking, justice and Christian discipleship. We we challenged by the human struggles still being dealt with by the people of New Orleans, were excited to hear church and world leaders like Bishop Hanson, Pastor Nadia Bolz-Weber and Shane Claiborne speak and dance and sing with the many amazing musicians that performed at the Super Dome.

In the Convention Center we were challenged to seek out ways to peace in our communities, schools, families and churches by learning more ways to serve others. We shared wonderful meals and southern hospitality together, walked many miles in the Louisiana rain, sun and heat, and learned how to navigate the trolley system when our feet needed a rest.

On our service day, we learned more about the long-lasting effects of slavery and were asked to use our cultural and economic privileges to help those who have less power.

The trip was a whirlwind of activity that was taken in by our local CALY group: Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth. Our group included 16 people from five different Lutheran Churches in our county: Bethel, Immanuel, Holy Trinity, St. Timothy and First Lutheran.

These are the people in our group that witnessed the sights, sounds, and story of New Orleans and the 2012 ELCA Youth Gathering: Julie Bihler, Darcy Whitney, Ian Eastman, Tara Eastman, T.J. Bihler, Bradley Bihler, Nathan Saar, Sophie White, Emily Whitney, Kirsten Magnuson, Emily Magnuson, Caylee Shelters, Nigel Eastman, Jeremy Hatfield, Sean Kilmartin and Danielle Guichard.

The stories from this experience are just starting to settle. Please ask about how we saw Jesus during this trip - we'd love to tell you all about it!

A song we learned in worship this last week went like this, "I want my life, to make a difference. I want my life to make a change." May the words of this song, our experience in New Orleans and our faith in God help us to make a difference in our lifetime. May theses things help us to remember God's purpose  and call to serve others. Help us to be the change we want and need to see - everywhere we go.

Tara Eastman is the Youth & Family Director at First Lutheran Church in Jamestown. She is a contributing writer to Connect, a new curriculum that helps preteens connect individual Bible stories with larger biblical themes, published by Sparkhouse (a division of Augsburg Fortress).

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

The Best Family Summer Ever: Ideas to Help Families Connect Before Summer Slips Away | StickyFaith.org


Summer can be an incredible time for families to connect, but opportunities can fly by without intentional planning. Rhett Smith, a licensed marriage and family therapist, has some steps to help you get started:
  • Communicate expectations
  • Create a rhythm of downtime and activity
  • Connect by disconnecting
Check out the article at this link.

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Thriving Families



The Search Institute recently compiled a list of Family Assets based on research from The American Family Assets Study. The Family Assets demonstrate “ways adults and young people pull together to support and bring out the best in one another.” When more assets are part of the fabric of family life, the more likely it is that parents and kids:

  • “have higher satisfaction with their families and with their lives”
  • “take better care of their health”
  • “contribute more to their communities”

The average family experiences less than half of these assets. How does your family compare? This would be a wonderful dinnertime conversation. Here’s the list:

FAMILY ASSETS


Nurturing Relationships

  • Positive communication—Family members listen attentively and speak in respectful ways.
  • Affection—Family members regularly show warmth to each other.
  • Emotional openness—Family members can be themselves and are comfortable sharing their feelings.
  • Support for sparks—Family members encourage each other in pursuing their talents and interests.


Establishing Routines

  • Family meals—Family members eat meals together most days in a typical week.
  • Shared activities—Family members regularly spend time doing everyday activities together.
  • Meaningful traditions—Holidays, rituals, and celebrations are part of family life.
  • Dependability—Family members know what to expect from one another day-to-day.


Maintaining Expectations

  • Openness about tough topics—Family members openly discuss sensitive issues, such as sex and substance use.
  • Fair rules—Family rules and consequences are reasonable.
  • Defined boundaries—The family sets limits on what young people can do and how they spend their time.
  • Clear expectations—The family openly articulates its expectations for young people.
  • Contributions to family—Family members help meet each other’s needs and share in getting things done.


Adapting to Challenges

  • Management of daily commitments—Family members effectively navigate competing activities and expectations at home, school, and work.
  • Adaptability—The family adapts well when faced with changes.
  • Problem solving—Family members work together to solve problems and deal with challenges.
  • Democratic decision making—Family members have a say in decisions that affect the family.


Connecting to Community

  • Neighborhood cohesion—Neighbors look out for one another.
  • Relationships with others—Family members feel close to teachers, coaches, and others in the community.
  • Enriching activities—Family members participate in programs and activities that deepen their lives.
  • Supportive resources—Family members have people and places in the community they can turn to for help.


Search Institute’s Parent Further website has very helpful insights for parents seeking to foster these qualities in their family. It is well worth a visit.

Ian Eastman, M.A. promotes the spiritual, social, and emotional development of young people and their families. He is the Conference Youth Coordinator for the Southwestern New York Conference of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, the Coordinator of the Shared Lutheran Youth Ministry in Jamestown NY, and a Youth Minister in the Pastoral Care Department at Gustavus Adolphus Family Services. He is a graduate of SUNY Empire State College (B.S. Cultural Studies), Northwest Nazarene University (M.A. Spiritual Formation), and is currently a student at the Institute for Youth Ministry at Princeton Theological Seminary. A published writer, his work has appeared in Good News, The Ooze, Parental Guidance Magazine, The Times Observer, The Wittenburg Door and YS Magazine.

Monday, July 23, 2012

Pray for CALY - Monday



Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth (CALY) from throughout the Southwestern Conference will be in New Orleans this week for the 2012 ELCA Youth Gathering. Please pray for the CALY team everyday this week as they grow in faith together!

Prayer for Monday, July 23
Pray for the CALY team as they travel home from New Orleans and for a gentle and graceful re-entry into the week ahead.

Please leave a comment on this post to let the young people know that you’re praying for them!

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Sunday, July 22, 2012

Closing worship - Sunday



It is hard to believe that our time in New Orleans is nearly at its end. We began the day with worship at the Superdome. We heard an message by Bishop Hanson and celebrated communion with approximately 40,000 participants! It was very inspiring!

Darcy writes: "I loved our nights in the Superdome. The energy of the kids and their excitement about Jesus is contagious! I also love seeing our kids open up. They love to talk to people they don't know and make new friends!"

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Pray for CALY - Sunday



Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth (CALY) from throughout the Southwestern Conference will be in New Orleans this week for the 2012 ELCA Youth Gathering. Please pray for the CALY team everyday this week as they grow in faith together!

Prayer for Sunday, July 22
Pray for the CALY Team that they would hear what God is speaking into their lives through this experience.

Please leave a comment on this post to let the young people know that you’re praying for them!

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Practice Justice - Saturday



Today was "Practice Justice" day at the Youth Gathering. We met at the Mercedes-Benz Superdome to learn about what it means to make a difference in the everyday lives of people. Then we had a cultural immersion experience in New Orleans where we experienced local drama, dance, and music and discussed privilege and inequality. We learned how we understand life (and God) through our own culture first. Maturity includes respecting other ways of life as valuable.

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Pray for CALY - Saturday




Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth (CALY) from throughout the Southwestern Conference will be in New Orleans this week for the 2012 ELCA Youth Gathering. Please pray for the CALY team everyday this week as they grow in faith together!


Prayer for Saturday, July 21
Pray for the CALY team mentally. Pray for openness to what they are learning about God, others and the world. Pray for discernment as they reflect upon all that God is revealing. Pray for the CALY team to let go and give their work into God’s hands as they realize what more could be done.


Please leave a comment on this post to let the young people know that you’re praying for them!

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Friday, July 20, 2012

Practice Peacemaking - Friday



Today was "Practice Peacemaking" day at the Youth Gathering. The convention center became a space for interactive learning. We reflected on God’s value for everyone, particularly those who are marginalized by society; and discerned how we can participate in the church’s efforts to express this love and actually practice peacemaking.

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Pray for CALY - Friday



Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth (CALY) from throughout the Southwestern Conference will be in New Orleans this week for the 2012 ELCA Youth Gathering. Please pray for the CALY team everyday this week as they grow in faith together!

Prayer for Friday, July 20
Pray for the CALY team physically. Pray for strength and stamina, health and safety. Pray for their sore muscles and aches. Pray for those who prepare their food and pray for restful sleep.

Please leave a comment on this post to let the young people know that you’re praying for them!

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Practice Discipleship - Thursday



Today was "Practice Discipleship" day at the Youth Gathering. Our morning began in the hotel ballroom where you will gathered with youth from throughout the Upstate NY Synod for "Dwelling in the Word." Bishop Jerge preached and led a full liturgy worship with Eucharist. Following worship, we moved into small groups for interactive learning in stations around the seven faith practices.

The CALY Team wants to send some messages to you:
EMILY says: "It has been fun meeting all of the kids that are here."
CAYLEE says: "It's been absolutely amazing! I don't want it to end!"
SEAN says: "Going great with parties!" (Sean is the life of the party!)
TARA says: "Spending time praying and reading scripture with small groups was uplifting."
NATHAN says: "Having tons of fun and meeting lots of new people."
JULIE says: "Amazing to see so many youth in one location! Lots of energy. The discipleship session was uplifting."
BRADLEY says: "Going great! Party at the Superdome!"
DARCY says: "Awesome, inspiring Gathering!"

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Pray for CALY - Thursday



Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth (CALY) from throughout the Southwestern Conference will be in New Orleans this week for the 2012 ELCA Youth Gathering. Please pray for the CALY team everyday this week as they grow in faith together!

Prayer for Thursday, July 19
Pray for those with whom the youth will come into contact. Pray that they may give and receive the love of Jesus. Ask God to strategically place them in an area of work that is a good fit for them. Pray for unity and peace among the CALY team members.

Please leave a comment on this post to let the young people know that you’re praying for them!

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Arrived in New Orleans today



A long but interesting Wednesday! Our day began with an early 4 am meeting in the parking lot at First Lutheran. Then we caravanned to the Buffalo-Niagara International Airport. We were very happy to finally arrive in warm New Orleans and begin exploring this colorful city! We moved into our rooms at the The Radisson Inn on Bourbon, checked-in at the Convention Center with thousands of other young Lutherans from around the country, got some great food, and went to opening worship at the Superdome.
Our group was especially impacted by a message about radical grace by Nadia Bolz-Webber. We were challenged by the contrasts of wealth and poverty in the neighborhood we're staying in. It was a wet evening as we made our way back to the hotel as we passed several homeless people sleeping in doorways. Looking forward to our Practice Discipleship day tomorrow. So much more to write, but the morning will be here soon!

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Pray for CALY - Wednesday



Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth (CALY) from throughout the Southwestern Conference will be in New Orleans this week for the 2012 ELCA Youth Gathering. Please pray for the CALY team everyday this week as they grow in faith together!

Prayer for Wednesday, July 18
Pray for the CALY team as they fly from Buffalo to New Orleans today. Pray for God to give everyone eyes to see, ears to hear and hearts to respond to all that God will reveal to them this week. And pray that God shapes and forms the attitudes, actions and words of the whole CALY team. 

Please leave a comment on this post to let the young people know that you’re praying for them!

Chautauqua Area Lutheran Youth gratefully acknowledges the support of the Karl Peterson Funds & Lynn Foundation Fund of the Chautauqua Region Community Foundation in making this project a reality.

Monday, July 16, 2012

Southwestern Conference Youth in this month's The Lutheran


Word gets around when you're doing something right. Check out page 10 of the July 2012 issue of The Lutheran for a writeup about the efforts of youth in the Southwestern Conference to raise funds towards the ELCA 100 Wells Challenge. There is also a dynamite photo of Pastor Adam of Bethel Jamestown diving into the JCC pool. Please note that the "more than $700 raised" by youth is now closer to $1,100 due to some contributions that came in after press time. Great job, young people!

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Summer bucket list


Last week my family was on vacation. We took a lot of relaxed and somewhat spontaneous day trips within a hundred miles or so of our home. This week we're back to work with my wife at a multi-church VBS program and myself planning a major annual fundraiser at my day job. We'll be taking a group of youth to New Orleans for the 2012 ELCA Youth Gathering in 8 days. The summer just seems to pass by so quickly and we still have a several things we'd like to do as a family.

I came across this neat idea for a "summer bucket list" on the blog Delia Creates. What a great way to get a whole family involved in activities! It serves as a neat visual reminder, too. Check it the link here. I think my family needs one of these!

So what's on your summer bucket list?
 

Monday, July 9, 2012

My Bourbon Problem



Several years ago I took my youth group to New Orleans for National Youth Gathering. We also made time to take in the sights, sounds, and tastes of the Crescent City: beignets at Café Du Monde, watching river boats on the Mississippi, live jazz, Audubon Park & Zoo, St. Louis Cathedral, the French Market, and the French Quarter. I wanted the youth to take it all in. Well, almost. There was one place that wasn't on my itinerary, until the youth group begged me to consider it: Bourbon Street.

Standing there waiting for the trolley, my initial reaction was to say a quick "no" and be done with it. Parents invest a lot of trust in me on these trips and I take that seriously. So if I err, I'd rather err on the side of caution. A retired gentleman nearby overheard our discussion and chimed in, "You can't come the whole way to New Orleans and not see Bourbon Street." His wife quickly added, "Keep all the kids together, though!" The young people looked at me hopefully. The retired couple seemed nice enough, so I wondered if I had needlessly made it into a bigger deal than I needed to.  As I pondered this, two friendly vacationing nurses from Houston approached and introduced themselves. "Y'all a Christian youth group? 'Cause if you are, there ain't nothin' on Bourbon Street worth seein’." This was not an easy decision.

I said, “You know, I’ve never actually been there so I don’t have a first-hand opinion. Let’s walk it and make up our own minds.” The youth were delighted. “But I have one condition. Afterwards, we’ll go get a coke and talk about it.” The youth group found this a reasonable request and agreed.

So we walked it. There were some giggles when we walked past a strip club, but those dissipated after we passed several more in a short period of time. The endless selection of bars, people walking the streets with open containers. One youth made eye contact with a drunk a bit too long and got a slurred curse directed his way. Then there were the gaudy tourist traps, and the chain-type attractions that stuck out like a sore thumb.

We had a great discussion afterward. Some youth wondered how there could be so much commercialization in one part of the parish when people were still living in FEMA trailers in another. Some girls were creeped out by the sex shows and expressed that there should be better ways to make a living—and be entertained. The drunks on the street were a new experience for my rural youth, and I was proud that for the most part, their plight elicited more sympathy than fear. One of the quiet guys spoke up and said, “Everyone back home told me I had to go to Bourbon Street. But if there was a street like that back home, we’d all avoid it.”

In the end, I was glad we went to Bourbon Street because it was such a good learning experience. The fantasy of the never-ending party sounds great. The reality of the situation was quite another. The best part was that the youth came to their own conclusions, rather than having an adult tell them what their opinion should be. (As if that ever works anyhow!)

In The Godbearing Life,  the best book on youthwork ever written, authors Dean & Foster highlight two important tasks adults can do for youth: hand-holding and finger-pointing. Hand-holding refers to the ministry of presence. In other words, being there for them. They write, “Hand-holding assures youth that they are not alone on their life/spiritual journey and offers them the confidence to take the next steps of faith.” Finger-pointing is meant in a positive sense, as in the role of a guide “who can point out the interesting diversions and steer [youth] away from some common wrong turns.” Either way, youth are going to walk down a Bourbon Street in their lives someday. Why not accompany them? Approach the journey with curiosity, and point your finger every so often and ask, “What do you see?”

Hand-holding and finger-pointing is very much on my mind as I’m taking a new batch of youth to New Orleans in a few days. Where did our host book our lodging? Bourbon Street.

Ian Eastman, M.A. promotes the spiritual, social, and emotional development of young people and their families. He is the Conference Youth Coordinator for the Southwestern New York Conference of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, the Coordinator of the Shared Lutheran Youth Ministry in Jamestown NY, and a Youth Minister in the Pastoral Care Department at Gustavus Adolphus Family Services. He is a graduate of SUNY Empire State College (B.S. Cultural Studies), Northwest Nazarene University (M.A. Spiritual Formation), and is currently a student at the Institute for Youth Ministry at Princeton Theological Seminary.