Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Hidden sexism and how it shapes our girls



"Who do you have up front in your ministry?  What messages are you sending by that?  What’s good about those messages?  What’s maybe not-so-good?" Kara Powell of Fuller Youth Institute writes about the importance of role models of both genders.

Read part one here.

Read part two here.

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Conference Youth Ministries are here for you!


It has been an exciting time for the Conference Youth Ministries Team. Our planning team is growing--a few weeks ago we had the best representation of churches in years--and we held our first of three major youth events of 2012. Our vision is that "Every ELCA congregation in the Southwestern Conference will collaborate together to benefit our youth, sharing knowledge and resources, using best practices." So far, so good! The Conference Youth Ministries Team can assist your church and its ministry to youth in several different ways:

CONFERENCE YOUTH MINISTRIES TEAM MEETING
First Lutheran Church
Saturday, March 3  9 am - 11 am
Saturday, April 7  9 am - 11 am
Saturday, May 5  9 am - 11 am
The team is open to all youth in grades 9 - 12 and caring adults. At the team meetings, we plan events for youth that are fun, foster faith, and have a service/justice aspect--events that are easy for a church to "plug-in" at a reasonable cost to allow maximum youth participation. We discuss ministry and learn about best practices. Come share your gifts and have input into youth ministry throughout our conference!

WWW.YOUNGLUTHERANS.BLOGSPOT.COM
Want to know about upcoming events for youth in the Southwestern Conference? Need some inspiration? Want to get some expert advice and the latest research about young people and ministry? This website is the place! It is usually updated three times a week, so there is always something new to see. We receive approximately 300 page views monthly. (We take article submissions, too.)

FULL CIRCLE TRAINING
Full Circle can teach your church how to surround its youth with faithful adults who are available, authentic and affirming. The beauty of this training is that it is not another program. Rather, it empowers people with the skills and intention to help nurture the faith of a young person. It is offered as 4 sessions of 60 minutes each or as a one-day morning/afternoon training.

For more information about Conference Youth Ministries, please contact Ian Eastman at ifeastman@yahoo.com or 720-8584.

Monday, February 27, 2012

The Circle of Courage



I am journaling my way each Monday through Reclaiming Youth At Risk: Our Hope for the Future by Larry Brendtro, Martin Brokenleg & Steve Van Bockern. Part 2 of 3.

In last week's journal entry I described how the authors view the challenge of youth at-risk as a systemic community issue. There are four hazardous environments that work against their well-being: destructive relationships, climates of futility, learned irresponsibility, and the loss of purpose. Young people immersed in these environments experience a profound alienation.

The section of the book I'm journaling about today describes The Circle of Courage, a framework to help youth at-risk experience belonging rather than alienation. They write, "Lacking a sense of self-worth, a young person from any cultural or family background is vulnerable to a host of social, psychological, and learning problems." Because of this, the circle reflects four components that speak to the self-esteem, or primary emotional needs, of youth:
  1. The Spirit of Belonging is about acceptance. Respect and inclusion isn't just the responsibility of the nuclear family, but all sectors (and generations) of the community.
  2. The Spirit of Mastery shows a young person that they're good at something that benefits others. The importance of this is explained thusly, "When the child's need to be competent is satisfied, motivation for further achievement is enhanced." In other words, success breeds success.
  3. The Spirit of Independence is the "ability to control one's behavior and gain the respect of others." It fosters young people who are self-reliant and resilient.
  4. The Spirit of Generosity gets young people looking outside themselves and at the needs of others. The authors rightly assert, "young people cannot develop a sense of their own value unless they have opportunities to be of value to others."

Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity—these are needs that must be met in an adolescent to ensure a healthy adulthood. Young people are trying to meet these needs, whether they know it or not. Their attempts to do so may be distorted by experiences in a hazardous environment. All the more reason for caring adults everywhere to help youth mend "the broken circle", the strategies of which I'll journal about next Monday.

Ian Eastman, M.A. is the Conference Youth Coordinator for the Southwestern New York Conference of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, the Coordinator of the Shared Lutheran Youth Ministry in Jamestown NY, and a Youth Minister in the Pastoral Care Department at Gustavus Adolphus Family Services. He is a student at the Institute for Youth Ministry at Princeton Theological Seminary.

Sunday, February 26, 2012

What did you think of the Toilet Bowl?

Hello Young Lutherans,
Thank you so much for being a part of THE TOILET BOWL! This is the first of many events we hope to have for you and your friends throughout Chautauqua and Cattaraugus counties. We want to have fun together, serve and help people, and grow as disciples of Jesus!
We are really interested in what YOUR OPINION. We want to make our events the best they can be!
  • Did you have fun? What other types of recreational things would you like to do in the future?
  • Today we blessed First Things First/We Believe Recovery Ministry by donating much needed paper supplies. What are some needs you see around the community? How would you like to help?
  • We heard a wonderful testimony from Judd Hamilton about how Jesus is transforming his life. We did a prayer activity. How did God speak to you through this event? Did you learn something new or see something in a different way? What topics would you like to hear about in the future?
Please leave a comment below and let us know your opinion.
  
Sincerely,
  

Coordinator
Southwestern Conference Youth Ministries Team

P.S. A big "thumbs-up" to everyone who helped make The Toilet Bowl such an awesome event: The Conference Youth Ministries Team, Gateway Center staff, everyone who participated in worship, youth leaders and parents who provided transportation, Judd Hamilton from First Things First and the many adults who helped us behind the scenes.

Ian Eastman

Thursday, February 23, 2012

The Toilet Bowl is this weekend!

Spend some time at THE TOILET BOWL this weekend! It is an action-packed Southwestern Conference Youth Ministries event that has a lot happening:

  • RECREATION: Laser Tag, Skateboarding/BMX, Video games w/video projector, Ping Pong, Air Hockey, Pool Table, Human Foosball Court & Chill Out Lounge and Snack Bar.
  • SERVICE & JUSTICE PROJECT: We're collecting Toilet Paper (and other paper products) for First Things First, a residential recovery ministry in Jamestown.
  • WORSHIP: A youth-led contemporary worship service with talented young people from throughout the Southwestern Conference, and a message from Judd Hamilton of First Things First.
THE TOILET BOWL is...
  • ...for youth in grades 5 - 12!
  • ...is happening this Sunday, February 26 from 1 pm - 4 pm at the Gateway Center, 31 Water St., in Jamestown!
  • ...costs just $5.00 + a roll of toilet paper (or other paper product)
  • ...THE place to be this Sunday afternoon!



Important details are in the poster below:

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Take a "Journey to the Cross" this Lent



Journey to the Cross, the online devotion site for Lent, returns to the web today. The site provides Scripture, a meditative thought, and prayer for each day of the Lenten season. The site will be offered until Easter Sunday, April 8 at d365.org/journeytothecross.

This series is written especially for students and seeks to provide reflections on themes that impact their faith journey. The themes for each week will reflect the Christian sojourn of self-examination during the Lenten season. In the midst of busy or boring days, this site will create a quiet space for contemplation and prayer. Original music from Ken Medema provides the backdrop that accompanies the thoughts and images.

Make this unique, contemplative resource part of your Lenten experience; grow in the wilderness journey.

Journey to the Cross is part of the ongoing daily devotional site d365.org, a ministry of Passport, Inc., and is sponsored by the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship, the Presbyterian Church (USA) and The Episcopal Church.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Shared Lutheran Youth Ministry March 2012 schedule


The Shared Lutheran Youth Ministry (SLYM) is an exciting youth group for young people in grades 5 - 12. It is a place where young people can be themselves in a friendly atmosphere, make a difference in the community, and look at topics of interest to them through a "God lens." SLYM, now in its 3rd year, is a partnership of Bethel, First, Holy Trinity, Immanuel, and Gustavus Adolphus Family Services. To find out more about SLYM, feel free to give its coordinator, Ian Eastman, a call at 720-8584. Here are seven things SLYM has planned for March:

YOUTH GROUP
First Lutheran/First House
Thursday, March 1  6:30 pm - 8:30 pm
Please note special location. We'll have recreation time at First Lutheran, and then head next door to First House to learn more about We Believe Recovery Ministry (the ministry we supported at the Toilet Bowl).

CONFERENCE YOUTH MINISTRIES TEAM MEETING
First Lutheran Church
Saturday, March 3  9 am - 11 am
We'll plan upcoming events for this spring and fall. This team is open to all interested youth in grades 9 - 12 and caring adults. Come share your skills and have input into youth ministry throughout the conference!

CALY LUNCH & DEVOTIONAL
Immanuel Lutheran Church
Sunday, March 4  12:30 pm - 1:30 pm
As our team prepares for New Orleans, we'll break bread and discuss our baptismal identity and promise.

YOUTH GROUP
G.A. Learning Center
Thursday, March 8  6:30 pm - 8:30 pm
Recreation & Worship

YOUTH GROUP
Lutheran Social Services
Thursday, March 15  6:30 pm - 8:30 pm
Please note special location. Come join us for a board game night with residents of Lutheran Social Services.

YOUTH GROUP
G.A. Learning Center
Thursday, March 22  6:30 pm - 8:30 pm
Recreation & Worship

YOUTH GROUP
G.A. Learning Center
Thursday, March 29  6:30 pm - 8:30 pm
Recreation & Worship

Monday, February 20, 2012

Seeds of Discouragement




I am journaling my way the next three Mondays through Reclaiming Youth At Risk: Our Hope for the Future by Larry Brendtro, Martin Brokenleg & Steve Van Bockern. Part 1 of 3.

How you define a problem informs the approach you will take to solve it. Young people at risk are often defined by their traits, and carry labels such as lazy or disadvantaged. This approach defines the problem as a negative characteristic in the young person. Fix the young person and you will fix the problem. Reclaiming Youth At Risk takes a different approach, one that gives attention to the environment young people find themselves. What have their interactions with family, friends, school, and work taught them? The authors lay out a convincing case about the profound alienation youth at risk experience.

The first hazardous environment (their term) is destructive relationships. They write, "When caretakers fail to meet a child's most basic needs, the child learns that they are unpredictable or unreliable…Expecting rejection [by other adults], they employ protective behaviors learned in prior encounters with threatening persons."

The second hazardous environment is climates of futility. Putting it bluntly, we don't believe some youth will amount to anything and consequently don't invest in them. The path of least resistance is their only option.

The third hazardous environment is learned irresponsibility. We seesaw between overindulging our youth and over regulating them. Neither approach leads to the real goal of self-sufficiency. Instead it results in victim-mentality mindset, rebellion, and narcissistic behavior.

The fourth hazardous environment is the loss of purpose. Youth play no vital role in our culture. The authors unpack this idea in describing how the meaning of employment has changed over the years. What used to be financial assistance for the whole family and a rite of passage into maturity is now merely an avenue to pocket cash. Is it any wonder that young people are disconnected, bored, and indulgent with no values to guide them? The monotony of existence is only broken by the next new toy, new download, or new high.

This section of the book really has me thinking about the vital role that people who work and volunteer with youth play in the well-being of our community. While no one can replace a parent, the stable presence of an encouraging adult makes a huge difference in how a young person at risk perceives life. The book has me taking a critical look at my youth program plans to best ensure that our environment, teaching, and shared experiences foster self-sufficiency and values.

Writing about these seeds of discouragement makes me want to re-cultivate the garden. In part two of the series, I'll relate how the authors propose shared values as a way of getting a community working together to clean up "hazardous environments" for youth.

Ian Eastman, M.A. is the Conference Youth Coordinator for the Southwestern New York Conference of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, the Coordinator of the Shared Lutheran Youth Ministry in Jamestown NY, and a Youth Minister in the Pastoral Care Department at Gustavus Adolphus Family Services. He is a student at the Institute for Youth Ministry at Princeton Theological Seminary.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Help for stressed out families



Kara Powell of Fuller Youth Institute writes about a topic that probably every family experiences at one time or another: stress. The article explains how our parental stress affects our kids, how kids respond to stress, and 7 ways we can help our kids manage stress. This is a great article to share with parents. I could see this being a great Sunday School discussion or parent meeting. Find it here:


Help for Stressed Out Families

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Suicide awareness and prevention


Everyone working or volunteering with adolescents should know the signs of suicide risk and crisis resources. In Chautauqua County, several local agencies are meeting monthly to raise awareness about the issue and inform people about steps to take for help. You can read a Post-Journal article about this campaign here.

There are some trainings happening in March and May for family-service workers and community members about helping those developing mental-health problems. I have registration forms for these events, which are filling up fast. Email me if you want me to send you one.

Perhaps we could invite a representative of this group to an upcoming Conference Youth meeting? What do you think?

Monday, February 13, 2012

Caught in the web (part two of two)



Last week I gave some examples of ways that technology and social media are too habitually entrenched in our lives. But extricating ourselves from "the web" seems to be easier said than done. This week I'll give several suggestions how people can set sane boundaries that keep them connected and plugged-in without having their entire lives taken over.

I used to have a wonderful shepherd- collie for a pet. We taught her to shake before we gave her a treat. The funny thing was, this dog was so smart that she started to initiate the shake when she wanted something to eat. I'd be eating dinner and this hairy paw would suddenly hover in front of me. It was cute, and I would give the dog something off of my plate. My wife began to kid me, "So who has who trained?" It kind of makes me think about how technology has changed over the last 15 years. Remember when cell phones were exotic gadgets it seemed only traveling salespeople had? Now it seems everyone has one "for emergencies" and it has become the easiest way to reach people at any time of day. Remember when many of us had to sit at a computer at work or home to connect online? We initiated the action. Now the web is connected right to our laptops, gadgets, and phones—and continually beeps, buzzes, and feeds us emails, texts, and status updates. Just like my smart dog turned the tables on me, we should be thinking about the way we respond to the technology in our lives. The question "So who has who trained?" may be a wise place to start.

Here are a few ideas to try personally, in our families, and in our community:

  • Remember there is an "off button." Remind yourself that you can use it—and shut the electronics down after a certain time each the evening, during personally important periods of time, and by all means when you're sleeping. Do you really need to respond to a text after 9 or 10 pm? It's not like it won't be there in the morning… 
  • Decide what you want each moment to be about. Do you want to go for a walk or do you want to chat with a friend? The truth is, when you do both you probably aren't doing justice to either activity.
  • Keep a media basket for dinnertime and other important family times. Rhett Smith at the Fuller Youth Institute website suggests, "Place a tray or basket where all people present can physically place their cell phones…Setting aside these devices visually demonstrates to yourself and others that you’re wanting to be present with those you are in relationship with.  This is a great practice to institute as a family at home, placing a basket or tray in a prominent place in the house where all members of the family can place their electronic devices." 
  • With Lent just around the corner, might congregations consider supporting each other in a different type of fast—abstaining from habitual use of electronics and unhealthy consumption of social media?
  • Observe Screen-Free Week 2012 from April 30–May 6, an annual initiative to "encourage children, families, schools, and communities turn off TV, video games, computers, and hand-held devices and turn on life." 

Technology is a great, provided that we keep it in its place—a tool that we control. Not the other way around. And remember, the point of cutting back is so we can foster good relationships with the people in front of us, and spend more time doing things we can all enjoy together: hobbies, games, exercise, good conversations and so on.

Oh—and get in touch with me if you'd like your congregation to promote Screen Free Week 2012. Maybe a few of us in the Southwestern Conference could sit down and brainstorm some ways we could help people get untangled from "the web" by highlighting some activities that promote health and wholeness.

Ian Eastman, M.A., is the Youth Ministries Coordinator for the Southwestern New York Conference of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America. He also coordinates the Shared Lutheran Youth Ministry on behalf of four area churches and is a youth minister in the pastoral care department of a residential youth home. He is a student at the Institute for Youth Ministry at Princeton Theological Seminary.

This article originally ran in a slightly modified form in the Feb. 11 edition of the Times Observer.


Wednesday, February 8, 2012

February 2012 minutes for Southwestern Conference Youth Ministries Team Meeting

Southwestern Conference Youth Ministries Team Meeting
Febraury 4, 2012 9 am @ First Lutheran Church
Meeting minutes


Present: Ian Eastman (SW Conference), Tara Eastman (First Lutheran), Mike Felsman (Tri-Church), Jeannine Gambrel (Gloria Dei), Sue Kilmartin (Bethel), Judy Lind (Immanuel) & Jennifer Spacht (Bethel)
Regrets: Jason Wood (St. Tim's)


DEVOTIONS...


The group opened with prayer for the McKillip family, who had lost a family member during the week. We prayed for Abby, a member of the SLYM youth group, who was injured by a dog. We read and discussed "2 Corinthians 11 & 12, if Paul had been a youth worker."


THE TOILET BOWL...


The Conference Youth website is receiving a lot of page views regarding this event. Hopefully this will result in many churches in the conference getting connected at the event. 


Speaker... Ian confirmed that Judd Hamilton, director of First Things First recovery ministry, will speak at the event.


Music... Jen suggested several youth at Bethel, Morgan and Danielle, who might possibly sing a solo at the event. She put a call into Morgan but hasn't heard back yet. Nigel E. from FLC has run the sound system at Gateway before. [UPDATE: Ann McKillip contacted Ian on Sunday to let us know that Adam, Jason & company will lead worship music at the event. Others youth/young adults are welcome to join in.]


Prayer/scripture reading... Sue suggested Rob B. at Bethel for prayer and/or a scripture reading. She passed along his phone number to Ian to contact him. Danielle G. might work out, too. Jen suggested a "prayer chain" activity where youth write out their prayers on paper and a chain is made.


Photography... The team will ask around their churches to find a photographer to document the event.


Icebreaker... We will look for an outgoing youth to lead an icebreaker at the event. Something like "My name is Joe" or some other game.


Toilet paper collection... Several churches are doing toilet paper and paper product drives in conjucntion with this event. Tara is going to make a Toilet Seat Toss game to collect the paper products at the event. Toilet paper should be sealed.


Drama, etc... If anyone knows of youth doing drama or sacred dance, please contact Ian ASAP as we would like to add them to the event.


Adult supervision... The event is in need of a minimum of 7 adults to assist during the event. The team will seek nice, friendly adults at their churches. [UPDATE: Jeannine emailed that Lisa O. will assist... Event helpers are to be at the Gateway center at 12:30 pm for instructions, orienation, and setup. They should be free by 4:15 pm. Ian is writing up a description of duties.]


Waiver for skatepark... [UPDATE: The ONLY youth that need paperwork for the event are those using the BMX/Skatepark. Talked with Pastor Rohler, the executive director of Gateway Center, on 2/7 and got the following information:


1. If the youth is a Soaring Up Skatepark "regular" the paperwork will already be on file. Nothing else is needed.


2. Otherwise, the youth must have a parent fill out 3 forms available at soaringup.org: the WAIVER, the SKATEPARK RULES, and the DECLARATION OF FITNESS. The bottom line of the WAIVER form, asking for the signature of a notary and verification of information, is NOT required for this event. The forms are located at the Soaring Up Skatepark website.]


The team will keep in contact via email as we approach the event. Don't hesitate to contact Ian with any questions.


OTHER EVENT SUGGESTIONS...


The group will survey youth at the Toilet Bowl about what events and mission projects they would like to do.


We will keep the momentum of the Conference Youth Team going by planning another event/project for April or May. Splash Lagoon was suggested, but the team also mentioned that the expense could be a hinderance to some. Ian and Tara have some contacts with the YMCA in Jamestown and will see what it might cost to do a pool party there. The have a floating island. The ELCA has a charity that builds water wells, which could be the justice/service part of the event. Mike and others suggested that there are many themes in Scripture that involve water, baptism being the most obvious.


A mission trip was suggested at a previous meeting. Ian checked around and found a trip that is organized every July by the SWPA Synod. The event costs $125 and is relatively close (McKeesport PA). Details here: Mission on the Mon. The Youth Gathering takes precedence this year, but this or something like it could be a possibility for 2013.


We are also looking towards an October-ish event. Looking at getting Youth Encounter for a concert and overnighter. Bethel traditionally hosts. St. Tim's did a fantastic job on an overnighter last year. Maybe we can combine the two?


We will get working on these upcoming events at the March meeting.


LEARNING...


The team watched and discussed a video from the Service And Learning Leadership Team, a project that teaches Christian young people to live as the "salt of the earth" (Matthew 5:13) by utilizing an intentional service learning process to bring richness and meaning to service experiences. We discussed the importance of each step in the process: Prepartaion - Action - Reflection - Celebration. More info at this link. Good stuff and researched based. (This is something anyone utilizing youth in service should review to make the experience as positive as possible and to maximize the benefit to youth. Ian has a video and discussion guide churches may borrow.)


UPCOMING MEETINGS...


3/3/12
4/7/12
5/5/12


Meetings are at 9 am at First Lutheran Church, 120 Chandler St., Jamestown.


(Note: The Southwestern Conference Youth Ministries Team is open to young people in grades 9 - 12, plus interested adults. Please circulate these minutes to youth, Sunday School teachers, Christian Ed committees, etc.)

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

How are you pursuing intergenerational ministry?


The Slant 33 blog is an always-stimulating discussion of youth ministry topics from leading practitioners in the field. In this link, they answer the question: "There is lots of talk about intergenerational ministry these days. What does that mean, and how are you pursuing it?" Worth a read!

Monday, February 6, 2012

Scandrette on modeling, practices, and cultivating environments



I am reading and journaling through Practicing the Way of Jesus: Life Together in the Kingdom of Love by Mark Scandrette (InterVarsity Press). As a parent and youth worker, I was intrigued by this passage about experiential learning and his children (emphasis mine):

"We have eaten together with drug addicts, gone on weekend-long silent prayer retreats, written our own poems and prayers, helped prepare hospitality meals, and cared for orphans. We realize this might be different than the typical path of Christian education, but we think children are most impacted by the modeling and example of the people closest to them. We don’t want to just tell them about the significance of a homeless messiah-prophet, we want them to walk in his steps. I’m convinced that one experience of embodied intentional practice can teach more than a year’s worth of Sunday school. Sometimes kids can recognize the truth of this more easily than adults. My son Noah once came with me when I spoke at a large retreat for college students. …[He] turned to me and said, 'Papa, I don't understand. You get up there and speak about things like listening to God or caring for victims of human trafficking—and then everyone leaves the building to do things that have nothing to do with what you talked about.' Wherever possible, we need to create environments that include both good instruction and opportunites for shared action."

Words are often soon forgotten, but experience sticks forever. The routine and schedule of church life often makes anything other than lecture and classroom-style teaching hard to pull off, but the extra coordination to lead youth into experiences is worth it. My work with Shared Lutheran Youth Ministry has definitely shown me the importance of the joyful discovery that happens when the young people go out in the community and can get their hands dirty. When I was growing up, demonstrating what I learned came in parroting "the right answer." My hope is that the youth of today will demonstrate what they are learning by demonstrating Christian practices and doing Kingdom-work right in the midst of their daily lives. On second thought, that is my hope for the whole church, regardless of age!

Scandrette casts a vision of faith formation that is playful and joyful, earthy and real. Needless to say, this is an enlightening and challenging book that I am thoroughly enjoying. Here is a link to Amazon if you want to purchase the book: Practicing the Way of Jesus: Life Together in the Kingdom of Love.

Oh yeah--and here is a link to his equally good previous book, Soul Graffiti: Making a Life in the Way of Jesus.

Caught in the web (part one)



Check out this idea for a science-fiction film: people build these hi-tech machines to serve humankind… The machines make life so much easier that people surrender more and more of their wills to the automations without even realizing it… Craftily, before anyone realizes how dependant they have become on this new technology, the machines turn the tables on humankind... Instead of the machines serving human beings, the human beings have now become enslaved to the machines… Now I don't seriously expect my childhood friend turned movie producer, Steve Niver, to come around begging to buy this idea for his next movie. Frankly, variations on this theme have already been done dozens of times down through the years. The other reason is that science-fiction concerns itself with the future. The scenario I shared is already happening very much today.

Don't believe me? Look around and observe. You won't see robots with laser guns holding sway over the city, but you will see plenty of cell-phones, laptop computers, Mp3 players, etc. Notice how you behave with your technology for a day or two. Notice what others do. Do these devices that make our lives easier ever get distracting? Do they ever get in-between the people or things in front of us?

This confession by Nick Bilton in the 1/1/12 edition of the New York Times really nails it: "Last week, I drove to Pacifica, a beach community just south of San Francisco, where I climbed a large rocky hill as the sun descended on the horizon. It painted a typically astounding California sunset across the Pacific Ocean. What did I do next? …I pulled out my iPhone and began snapping pictures to share on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. I spent 10 minutes trying to compose the perfect shot, moving my phone from side to side, adjusting light settings and picking the perfect filter. Then, I stopped. Here I was, watching this magnificent sunset, and all I could do is peer at it through a tiny four-inch screen. 'What’s wrong with me?' I thought. 'I can’t seem to enjoy anything without trying to digitally capture it or spew it onto the Internet.'"

I empathize with Bilton. The use of technology has become so habitual that it gets in the way. There are pleasures in life, such as a magnificent sunset, that are simply to be enjoyed in the present. Composing a Facebook status won't make it any more enjoyable. Most likely the distraction may actually make it less pleasurable. The same goes for carrying on two conversations at once—one with the person in front of you and the other via text message. A walk isn't necessarily going to be improved by headphones and a musical soundtrack. Productivity isn't improved by continually checking email, text messages, voicemail and the Internet.

Pico Iyer, in his Joy of Quiet op-ed piece for the New York Times, writes, "In barely one generation we’ve moved from exulting in the time-saving devices that have so expanded our lives to trying to get away from them--often in order to make more time. The more ways we have to connect, the more many of us seem desperate to unplug. Like teenagers, we appear to have gone from knowing nothing about the world to knowing too much all but overnight."

Whoever nicknamed the Internet "the web" had it right. It seems we are all caught in its sticky mess in varying degrees these days. But extricating ourselves seems to be easier said than done.  And let's face it: there is no turning back the clock on technology. So how can people set sane boundaries that keep them connected and plugged-in without having their entire lives taken over? That's what we'll ponder next Monday in part two.

Ian Eastman, M.A., is the Youth Ministries Coordinator for the Southwestern New York Conference of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America. He also coordinates the Shared Lutheran Youth Ministry on behalf of four area churches and is a youth minister in the pastoral care department of a residential youth home. He is a student at the Institute for Youth Ministry at Princeton Theological Seminary.


This article originally ran in a slightly modified form in the Feb. 4 edition of the Times Observer.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Old men need to be explorers

"Who are you exploring with?  What are you exploring?  Will it make a difference in the Kingdom?" All interesting questions about intergenerational ministry by Paul Hill, executive director of Vibrant Faith Ministries. Check 'em out in the link.